Perfect, Perfection, Perfectionism

One of the greatest lessons I've learned in life is the connection between fear and perfection.

If you demand perfection of yourself in all you do, you're set up to fail. If you fear failure...you have created the perfect excuse to justify not taking action!

I am not perfect (far from it). I've gotten to where I'm mostly okay with that...but because I'm not perfect sometimes I struggle to let myself off the hook. Will you allow me the grace I struggle to give myself?

If you seek perfection in others, you're sure to be let down. If you are let down over and over again, you reinforce your beliefs that what you seek doesn't exist and you begin looking for the flaws immediately to support that assertion.

I know you are not perfect. Perfect has always been nebulous, a definition that could evolve to disqualify people from my life...I realized now, this was fear manifested. Anyone who came close to meeting the definition of perfect was dangerous and the criteria had to change.

I will, imperfectly, work to not fear how right we are for one another. And I'll imperfectly work to give you grace in those things you do that will annoy the shit out of me and not allow myself to turn those annoying mole hills into mountains that justify an irrational fear that causes me to be destructive to our relationship.

I'll have things I do that annoy the shit out of you too, I have no doubt. I promise to be yielding and compromising...imperfectly.

I hope you will, in all your imperfection, cultivate the winding road of overcoming fear based perfection with me. Can’t say there won’t be bumps!