Orgasmically Challenged

The best way to ensure I am not going to cum is to tell me to cum.

I am not sure why I didn't discover my clit until I was in my 20s. I thought female masturbation consisted of penetration play only until I was probably 20-21. I'd never had an orgasm until that time.

I remember where I was when my boyfriend at the time (who I'd been with for 2-3 years at that point) told me how to masturbate...though his description included a clear tone of disgust. He was great at feigning the prude when I later learned he was the complete opposite.

I've never felt comfortable masturbating in front of anyone else...probably as a result of that early disgust I felt from my partner at the time. I got to the point where I could do it during sex if my partner was not watching me do it.

My daughter's father, who I was with for a short period of time in a relationship attempt, hung his sexual pride on his ability to get me to cum...the pressure made it IMPOSSIBLE. I would get so in my head.

My former Dom was the first to ever get me to climax via oral sex...he's one of only 3 people who have ever succeeded at that task. I've only had one lover who was able to make me climax during sex without my hand assisting. Normally I can only cum once as I get over stimulated...except with the lover who was able to make me climax during sex...he was able to get me there multiple times...orally and through sex.

I have squirted 1-2 times, I honestly don't remember the second time, I just know it happened again. The first time was with a couple and the woman managed it and surprised us both.

I've never cum from anal sex, though I enjoy it a great deal.

So, I say this in hopes that you understand and will give me a reasonable accommodation and help me navigate what I feel is my stunted development relative to this area.